Christian Swingers Say God Would Be Okay With Their Lifestyle
I don’t even know where to begin with this one. Sometimes you come across something so profoundly…stupid, that it’s hard to even get a grasp on it. Such is the case with the story of Dean and Christy, self-titled “Christian swingers.”
Dean and Christy met online and hit it off. After being married for a little while they began swinging as a way to spread God’s Word. Now, if that sounds like an odd statement it’s because you have some moral footings and Biblical knowledge that help you realize sinning in order to spread God’s Word is a contradiction.
But according to Dean, being a sinner is the best way to tell other sinners about God. In the video, posted below, he says:
“If I were a priest going to a swingers club, would you listen to me? You got a better chance listening to me spreading the word of God being another swinger, it’s still a sin, it’s just, how are you using it?”
Oh, I got ya Dean, as long as I am sinning for the right reason it’s okay. So I can be a drug dealer as long as I share Christ with all the clients whose lives I’m ruining. And when they hit rock bottom and lose their family, house, and health, I can smile and remind them that “Jesus loves you.” Is that how it works Dean?
And I can support women working in strip clubs and prostituting themselves as long as they promise to share Jesus with every handsy guy leaving a dollar in their G-string, right? After all, the men who go into those clubs and buy sex from hookers are really in need of a Savior. Who better to share Jesus with them than the girls they have come to lust after?
This might sound categorically absurd to any person with an ounce of biblical training. But according to Dean, it makes perfect sense. He went on to say in the video:
“God’s not gonna put a lion with a bunch of elephants. What’s he gonna do? He’s gonna put a swinger with swingers to spread His Word…If all the swinger’s are sinners, what’s the best way to talk to the sinners? To join them! Right?”
Yeah, Dean, that’s exactly what Jesus did. He came down and rather than living a perfect, sinless life in order to share the Gospel with sinners, He joined them. He didn’t tell the adulteress she was sinning, and He didn’t tell the co-habitating woman to stop sinning. In fact, He didn’t tell anyone to stop sinning, He just joined right in while sharing the Word of God.
Oops, that’s not what happened. Jesus never once condoned anyone’s sin. And He certainly didn’t teach, preach, or otherwise endorse living a sinful lifestyle in order to share God’s Word. Nope, He did the opposite. Jesus told His disciples to “be holy because I am holy.” (1 Pet. 1:16) Jesus expected those who claimed to know Him to be separate from the world. To learn how to love people so much that we could stay away from their sin and yet reach them with the Gospel. This is exactly what Jesus did. If Jesus had lived the kind of life Dean and Christy are living, one embroiled in unrepentant sin, He never would have been able to die for us.
The astounding lack of biblical knowledge doesn’t stop there. Christy said in a recent interview:
“I don’t think God would be mad at what we are doing…Dean and I are both in agreement with this lifestyle, so we’re not committing adultery. God put people on the earth to breed and enjoy each other – I feel God is always with me and he has put us here for a reason.”
Oh, okay, as long as two people agree then it’s justified. So, according to Christy, as long as two lesbians agree with their lifestyle then it really doesn’t matter what the Bible says – God is happy with them. Is that how it works Christy?
I used to tell my Bible students when I was teaching that I didn’t care what they thought. And they shouldn’t care what I think. All that matters is what the Bible says. So, does the Bible have anything to say about this issue? According to Christy it doesn’t, she said, “The Bible doesn’t talk about swinging, specifically.”
Umm, yeah, about that. Though the Bible might not say the word “swinger” specifically, I am pretty sure God has something to say about sex and marriage. First, God did put man and woman on the earth to breed and enjoy each other. But He made sure it was within the confines of marriage. For this reason God said don’t commit adultery (Ex. 20:14) – which includes spouse sanctioned adultery. But for anyone unsure if Jesus agreed with this, look no further than Matthew 5:27 where Jesus said not to even lust after another woman. Jesus made clear that our spouse was the only person we are to desire or be with physically.
But that’s nothing new, God said that back in the beginning when He said a man was to leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife (Gen. 2:24, Matt. 19:5). This means that man was to marry and have affection, love, and desire for his wife, and only his wife. This was further reiterated in the New Testament in the book of Hebrews when we are told that “marriage is honorable,” and that the marriage bed is to be “kept pure.” (Heb. 13:4)
In a culture where efforts are constantly under way to redefine marriage this is not the least bit helpful. No doubt polygamy and polyamory advocates are elated to hear about “Christian swingers” as they give credence to their false claims. Dean and Christy serve to further muddy the waters as Christians fight daily to stand for the biblical definition of marriage as one man, one woman, one lifetime – with no “friends with benefits” clauses.
Dean and Christy are another example of people that claim to be Christians while living a lifestyle that says otherwise. Regardless of their intentions, it is nothing short of sin to live a lifestyle that is contrary to God’s very clear Word while claiming to be a Christian. Just as it would be sinful for a person to claim to be a Christian while living a proud, unrepentant homosexual life; so too the life of a swinger stands in opposition to the Word of God.
Dean made a statement at the end of the video that shows just how ignorant of God’s Word he and Christy are:
“God’s hasn’t said, hey Dean, stop this it’s a sin. Until He does that I’m keep trying to help as many people as I can.”
Well, yeah, Dean, God has said that. God said that a few thousand years ago when He created and instituted marriage between man and woman. And then Jesus reiterated it. Time to stop Dean. Time. To. Stop.