The Connection Between Dolce and Gabbana and “Synthetic Children”
If you didn’t know better you would think that anyone still in support of the traditional family is an outdated bigot that needs to get with the times. Everyone, the media and “experts” tell us, supports alternative families.
With this in mind I am sure it was a surprise when famed designers Dolce and Gabbana revealed that they support the traditional family. The fact that they are both openly gay makes their support for the traditional family more powerful; and more heinous to LGBT activists.
When the famous duo’s position was made public there was immediate backlash against them. Stars like Elton John called for a boycott of Dolce and Gabbana for simply stating their position. Responding to such backlash the duo said:
“Boycott Dolce & Gabbana for what? They don’t think like you? This is correct? This is not correct. We are in 2015. This is like medieval. It’s not correct.”
Here is two gay men supporting the traditional family, receiving immediate backlash and calls for a boycott, and even they don’t understand what all the fuss is about. There’s a joke in there somewhere. But, truthfully, it’s not very funny. The media wants us all to believe that everyone supports new and strange definitions of the family that include two dads and kids, three moms a dad and their kids, or whatever random group of people you choose to assemble. The reality seems much less optimistic to the new definition of family.
I’m reading more and more about gay people that don’t support marriage redefinition and kids brought up by gay people that also don’t support marriage redefinition. This growing group of people is struggling to get the attention of a culture that wants to stop its ears and pretend their cries of protestation don’t exist. But they do exist.
When the uproar over comments made by Dolce and Gabbana was happening, two IVF conceived women decided it was time to share their stories. They not only made their support for Dolce and Gabbana public, they told the world of the struggles faced by “synthetic” children that are conceived via technology. They wrote:
“Team Elton, and the media that surround them, seem to think that this discussion is about gay parents. Team Dolce and Gabbana are instead trying to draw attention to missing parents. And to what should be the horror of millions, Team Elton is literally promoting the obliteration of mothers—not through vilification, but by pretending they don’t even exist.”
Their comments, along with the entire article – which I encourage you to read, are haunting. For me, a Christian, it calls me to take a step back and consider my position on reproductive technologies such as IVF. I confess I’ve never given it much of a thought because as a married man with three kids I’ve never had to. My wife and I had no trouble having kids so the issue was never pressing. But now it’s more than just a reproductive issue, it’s a marriage, family, and cultural issue that demands attention.
There’s no doubt that may families have benefitted tremendously from reproductive technology. IVF has allowed couples unable to conceive naturally to know the joys of being parents. The question must now be asked, at what cost?
Part of the cost that has become apparent is that homosexual couples are using IVF to enjoy the blessings of parenthood as well. The difference is that they are, as is characteristic of homosexual couples, robbing children of a mother or a father. The argument against same-sex “marriage” that continues today is whether it is best for kids to grow up without a mother or a father. Historically we have decried fatherless children and emphasized the critical need for the presence of a father in the life of a child. But when the gay community rose to prominence in culture we somehow decided that fathers weren’t as necessary as we once thought. We did so for political reasons, not for what is in the best interest of the child.
What is too soon to tell is the societal effect our decision to forego decades of sociological research in favor of current political trends? What exactly will the societal effect of a generation of children conceived by technology and raised without a biological mother or father be?
Christians, generally, are in favor of science and technology. We love to see advances that benefit humanity. When a man and woman get married and find out, for one reason or another, that they cannot have kids, it must be devastating. The technology of IVF and the hope it brings must be a joy to them. And now, as a result of how this technology has been used, I have to wonder if it was really in society’s best interest for it to be created?
Do we really want to wake up one day and read a headline that says “1 out of every 2 kids doesn’t know his/her biological mother or father”?
On some level I can’t help but wonder if we know that some technology isn’t right. Deep down do we struggle with accepting IVF as a legitimate option? Maybe we simply weren’t supposed to have kids. I don’t mean that in a judgmental or negative way. Instead I mean that while we are busy spending insane amounts of money to create kids conceived by technology, many kids that are already born still have no home. Have we forgotten the beauty of adoption?
This is not an issue that can be settled in a 1000 word pondering on a blog. But it IS an issue and it needs to be discussed and considered very carefully. I understand that some might think I have no business speaking on the issue because of my lack of trouble in having kids. That aside, we need an objective discussion on this topic. Maybe we can have that discussion sooner rather than later; before we wake up to unwanted news headlines. For now, I agree with Dolce;
“You are born to a mother and a father – or at least that’s how it should be…”
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