The Feminist Worldview is Incompatible with Love Because It Is Selfish
There can be no doubt that elements of the women’s liberation movement of the past decades were good, and right, and needed. Ensuring women had the right to vote and workplace equality are two positive outcomes we can point to. Today’s feminist movement however is as damaging to relationships, families, and society as any other skewed worldview.
Consider for a moment the story of a woman that was seeking advice on things she could make for her husband’s lunch. This woman asked social media for things she could make for her husband’s lunch, something she did each day because she “loves her man” and they “can’t afford to eat out.”
Now, let’s stop right here for a moment and acknowledge what is taking place. Here is a young couple, most likely not married for very long, seeking to love and support one another. The young wife states that she makes her husband lunch because they can’t really afford to eat out. She also states that it is her way of loving and taking care of her man. This young wife further states that her husband works very hard and even helps around the house with things like cooking dinner.
From the details presented here this is a young couple working together, serving one another out of love. But did social media agree?
Nope. The moms on Maddie’s social media group immediately attacked her as a “slave,” “1950’s housewife,” and “weird.” here is some of the responses she received:
“My husband can make his own damn lunch.”
“I make my husband the same thing he makes me. Nothing!!”
“Stuff that, hubby is a grown man. I already do his laundry and keep his children alive.”
“Our advice is to stop making his lunches.”
Welcome to modern feminism. In our feminist culture where men are evil and must be defeated, women are never to do anything that could be considered demeaning. Such things include: cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, any kind of housework, decorating (for holidays or otherwise), and a whole host of other terrible, awful jobs. Any of these things are “below women” and only serve to set women back decades.
The irony in it all is that if a woman decides to cook food as a career, that’s fine. She can be a chef or a school cook. She can cook for anyone, even her kids, as long as it is not solely for her husband. Cooking for others is acceptable, and cooking for money is certainly acceptable, but cooking for the joy of your husband out of love and appreciation for him is highly offensive. Don’t do it.
The irony doesn’t stop there. If a woman wants to clean other people’s houses, strangers that hire her to clean their house, that’s fine. Being a maid is a respectable career. But please don’t clean your own house. Please don’t serve your family and your husband by helping to keep your house clean. It’s beneath you.
And if you want to take the irony to extreme measures, it’s perfectly fine, according to the feminist worldview, for a woman to be a sex worker. If she chooses a career in pornography, prostitution, or as an escort, it’s “empowering,” and we should applaud her. And just in case you were wondering, this also means if a woman sleeps her way to the top in corporate America, she is a hero. But don’t you dare suggest that a woman make an effort to please her husband sexually. How dare you make such a chauvinistic suggestion. You should disavow your misogynist views and forever be ashamed of yourself.
Writing at Fox news, Suzanne Venker points out the selfish hypocrisy of the feminist movement:
“Feminists teach women, above all else, to stand up for themselves against the evil men of the world. Even harmless husbands fall into the category of ‘evil men’ since they supposedly long to lord over their wives. Thus, the knee-jerk reaction to the suggestion that a wife might serve her husband in some way—make him a drink or a meal—is to become defensive. Yet, if we turn the scenario around, if a husband were to serve his wife in any way, well, that’s acceptable.”
Here’s where things are really upside down. If a husband chooses to serve his wife through acts of kindness and love, that’s acceptable. No, it’s not acceptable, it’s expected. He should do everything in his power to “wow” his wife each and every day. He should cook for her. He should clean the house unexpectedly. He should buy her gifts. He should take care of the kids. And all of this should be done before and after he gets home from work. The end result is a worldview that says it is perfectly acceptable for a husband to make his wife lunch, but she dare not make his lunch.
It is a twisted, selfish, hypocritical worldview that is eroding our culture. But, as Venker points out, the reason is because feminism is solely focused on self:
“The feminist worldview is antithetical to love because its focus is solely on women: their needs, their wants, their desires, and their rights. Love can’t possibly be sustained with an attitude like that.”