Doug Mainwaring Explains Why Gays Don’t Want to be Married
Posted on April 1, 2014 in Marriage by Nathan Cherry
Doug Mainwaring, an openly gay man, married to a women, rejecting the homosexual lifestyle and same-sex “marriage,” has gained attention in recent years for his outspoken opposition to marriage redefinition.
Mainwaring is a well educated, successful, articulate, communicator of the fact that marriage is inherently the union of a man and woman and nothing, not laws, not judges, not certificates, can change that. He has, as you might have guessed, gained a number of detractors seeking to silence him from exposing the true motives behind the LGBT agenda.
Mainwaring recently wrote an article in the American Thinker responding to some of his detractors after they viciously attacked him for daring to say that marriage cannot be redefined. you can click the link to see what some of those “tolerant” people wrote and Mainwaring’s responses. I’ve posted part of his article below because he explains in find detail common sense reasons to reject marriage redefinition. The fact that he is gay and holds this position makes him dangerous to “the cause” of liberals and those seeking more than they care to admit.
“This whole disagreement stems not from gays being discriminated against by a society that wants to deny them rights. It stems from gays choosing to abandon certain rights. Gays reject the right to marriage. Most don’t want marriage. They want something different from marriage. They want a committed, sexual relationship with another man. And in practice, sometimes these are monogamous, but let’s face it: most evolve into open or semi-open relationships.
“If gays truly wanted marriage, they would find a nice girl, get a minister, get hitched, and settle down. But that’s not what gays want. They want something that marriage is not.
“They want to slide into bed every night with a guy they love. They want to walk down the street hand in hand or arm in arm with that guy. They want to live a life with that guy in a house with a picket fence, maybe a pool in the backyard, and a dog and a cat. But that’s not marriage. No matter how much you decorate your life together to make it look like your relationship is a marriage, it is not.
“Having forsaken that right, the 1.7% of American adults who are gay or lesbian demanding to call their relationships “marriage” inflict an enormous burden on the other 98.3% of American adults. To ask the entire population to forsake the definition of marriage, and pretend that two guys or two women together is a marriage, is asking way too much. It demands that intellectual honesty be shut down; it demands that common sense be turned off. It demands that we all pretend. It demands that we all become intellectually dishonest.
“Gay activists want everyone to go along with the charade that we’re all engaged in the exact same thing. We are not.
“This can’t be stated strongly enough
“It’s not that gays are weak victims, deprived of marriage by society. The exact opposite is true: they are strong-minded and iron-willed in their rejection of women, resolute in their choice not to grow as human beings in their appreciation for half the human race. Instead, many choose to celebrate that rejection, and, in a sense, the act of claiming betrothal between two men serves to mock the immutable sacrament of marriage. It’s a way to “stick it to the man,” to religion, to tradition, to natural law. It’s a declaration of independence from half the human race.
“The recent institutionalizing of “gay marriage” across the country is a wonder of marketing and manipulation. Interestingly, its acceptance stems from the same mindset that “every kid on the soccer or tee ball team deserves a trophy.” No one should feel bad or left out. Yet in reality, it’s only those who achieve – who actually meet certain requirements – who truly deserve trophies. A “Me, My, Mine” mentality that ignores natural law seems to have swept everybody off his feet.
“We are not entitled to everything we want. By instituting same-sex marriage, governments are essentially passing out tee ball trophies to everyone who wants one, even if they’re playing for the other team, so to speak.
“Gays have already decided to be left out of marriage. It’s the choice of many. Even in participating in a ceremony and getting a certificate from the State, they still aren’t participating in Marriage. They are engaging in make-believe. And so “gay marriage” is just fatuousness – a type of unserious frivolity – that even U.S. Supreme Court justices who fancy themselves as makers of history are not immune to.
“One point seven percent of the people in this country need to return to intellectual honesty. And so do the jurists, politicos, pundits, and all their for-profit and nonprofit cronies who portray themselves as thought leaders, but who are, in reality, non-thought enforcers, anti-intellectual Kahunas.
“So Jeffery, you’re quite right that there is no reason to deny rights to gays – and in the history of this nation and in the history of the world, this has never been done with regard to marriage. But gays have freely chosen to abdicate their right to marriage by being obstinate in their rejection of women, choosing to recognize them only as ‘breeders” and egg donors for the children they seek to engineer.”
My thanks to Doung Mainwaring and others like him that are willing to stand and speak boldly into this discussion from a perspective that others don’t believe exists. Media and politicians alike want us to believe that every gay person wants to be married, but Doug sheds the light of truth on that claim that activists are scared of.