The reality of abortion is bad enough. The fact that some people defend it as though it is nothing more than a normal, everyday decision is also bad. But a recent article called “20 Tips for Your First Abortion” is perhaps one of the single most vile pieces of writing I’ve ever come across.

In this article, posted to a feminist website, the author, using a pen name (I don’t blame her. I wouldn’t want anyone to know I wrote this either) tells women to ignore the fact that the person on the phone making the appointment to kill her baby doesn’t care. She advises women to “take the nonchalance as a sign that it is no big deal. It could be a teeth cleaning. A very deep teeth cleaning.”

Yeah, because killing a living human being and getting your teeth cleaned are really similar. Seriously?

And the title of this article is subtle yet clearly worded: these are tips for your first abortion. This author wants to make it clear that once you have an abortion it will be easy to have another. Statistically, very few women have repeat abortions. The trauma encountered by the procedure keeps a vast majority of women from ever having another. But don’t tell this author, she wants you to pretend this is just a “teeth cleaning” so you’ll feel free to have as many abortions as needed.

Here’s a few of the author’s “tips” for preparing to kill your unborn child:

3. Google is your best friend and worst enemy. Avoid any website that uses the word “life.” They will not help you. Also avoid all images. All of them. Even if it promises to be a cartoon drawing called “Olivia the Ovary.” They will not help you either. Read medical articles. Know your options.

5. The time between making the appointment and going to the appointment is the worst. Stay busy. Drink heavily. You are not showing yet. Talk to Miss Poke some more. Drink some more. You are still not showing. It will be over soon.

7. It will cost around six hundred dollars. Consider the cost of raising a child. Consider the cost of that Beyoncé concert ticket you almost bought. Now, let it go.

18. In the next room, listen to the instructions from the nurse with the soothing Caribbean accent. Assume she is in this room because of that nice accent. Eat the animal crackers. Drink the apple juice. Realize the tears were about hormones and relief. Breathe deeply. 

Just to recap: you should “know your options,” unless those options are pro-life. in that case you should ignore that information and anything that could possibly encourage you to change your mind. Be sure to drink a lot, maybe even stay drunk for a few days. That way, if you do change your mind you can perhaps damage your unborn child with fetal alcohol syndrome; that should sufficiently encourage you to kill the child. Remember, you are doing this because it costs a lot of money to raise a child and you would rather spend the money on concert tickets. And most importantly, the tears you are crying have nothing to do with the guilt and shame of killing a living, innocent child; it’s just hormones.

Is this what “feminism” has come to? Is this the “equality” women fought so hard for? This woman ought to be ashamed of herself. She has just encouraged women to make an uninformed, intoxicated decision based on money; one that would result in the death of another human being. If this is the epitome of modern feminism, we would do well as a society to take a few steps back and reconsider our course.

I’m all for gender equality. But that equality must include the most vulnerable among us: the unborn. If not, we are little more than hypocrites throwing a temper tantrum because we want to have our cake and eat it too.